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instructor144 answered:
You raise it in a meta talk. “I missed pantie reporting the other day and you didn’t call me on it. I get anxious when I don’t feel you tug the leash when I make a misstep.”
If I may offer an alternative…..
He was having a stressful week and didn’t notice that you failed to check in regarding panty choice one day,
Rather than jump to the conclusion that he didn’t notice or didn’t care, how about you spot him a bit of grace?
You are an adult, who has been dressing yourself for what I assume to be years.
It’s a pair of panties. I think he assumed that you could manage that on your own, or just forgot due to the additional stress that week.
I’m flabbergasted that you jump from a missed panty check-in to “hard for me to trust our dynamic.”
I know there are folks that will say the little things aren’t so little, or that failure to follow through is a sign of something bigger going on.
I’m not one of those folks.
Instead of a serious talk, how about some humor? Take the panties you were supposed to wear, drape them from your toe, and send the picture saying, “Here’s what you missed Sir! I’m flinging in your general direction.”
Take the panties he missed and put them in a crazy location (I don’t know…. in your fridge or something?) and write, “lost without your check-in, Sir”
Every little thing does not signify the end of a dynamic or a failure to thrive.
Let’s face it, a power exchange dynamic is a huge undertaking - an undertaking by humans, flawed, busy, stressed humans.
Instead of leaping to the worst possible conclusion, perhaps you could let him know that you noticed that he didn’t notice, but not make him feel like he failed.
A spot of grace and humor goes a long way.
